I am not a very good conversationalist. (Shh, don't tell my friends - they might disagree!) I grew up in a family that loves small talk and social gatherings. I am an introvert so I am not very talkative. Let me give you an example. At a recent cocktail party, I met another woman was also an introvert. Let's call her Lizzy. Lizzy runs a nonprofit so I asked her if the organization was a 501(c)(3). That is a yes or no question. It didn't get very far. Since Lizzy seems to be an introvert she said something to the effect of 'yes it is'. So then I asked what was their primary source of fundraising. And Lizzy replied that it was an annual gala dinner.
And from there the conversation fizzled. Not that I didn't try. But it is hard to find ways of connecting with a total stranger. Unlike one of my children who never seems to meet a stranger, I do not instantly connect with very many people. I am not adept at thinking of good conversation starters or open ended questions. I don't think on my feet like some people. I am better at listening. I process things internally and not verbally. My best mode of expression is probably writing, but even there I lean toward brevity.